Phase V, ACT VI: Child Protective Services, The child catchers


The story went like this… Neighbors saw two toddlers out in the middle of the street without the supervision of their mother. A call was placed to Child Protective Services who promptly removed the children.

I began seeing the mother through a county program that provided mental health services for people who did not have medical insurance. In order to continue servicing her needs, my work was to be transitioned to the child welfare department as an independent contractor. I immediately found myself having difficulty understanding her rambling, disjointed thoughts and sheer anger with the department. I asked her about the work that she had been doing with another therapist and she was unable to clearly articulate any information that she had been able to retain. I knew that that she was suffering from a learning disability that would significantly interfere with her ability to process any information delivered in a linguistic format.

Through my own digging I was able to find out was that this young mother had gone to a local physician up river after feeling depressed. He had seen her over time for a multitude of issues and prescribed her more than 5 different medications. Because of her depressed state and strange speaking pattern, he diagnosed her with Bipolar Disorder and prescribed her another medication. It was then she began to act erratically. That led to the incident where the neighbors saw her two children out in the street and called CPS. I suggested that she see another physician who changed her medications and her behavior stabilized.

I was able to have her seen and evaluated by a clinical psychologist who formally dismissed the Bipolar Disorder and concurred with my diagnosis of a learning disorder. He suggested that she continue counseling with me and that there was no reason she would not be able to effectively parent.

CPS was convinced by an assessment conducted with the mother that she needed Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. I was able to convince the department that the woman was in need of some accommodation due to a learning disorder. I decided to take the most emotionally salient issue, her CPS involvement, and use it as a teaching tool instilling the best of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy tenets. The approach was tailor made for this woman and enabled her to learn skills that would make her more successful in her interactions with CPS case workers.

Using this adapted modality, this young woman felt more in control of the often contradictory and demeaning treatment that she received by the department. My notes reflected her ability to master awareness in her CPS interactions through noting differences in the people that she was forced to deal with and alternating her approaches to each person, using their responses as a way to gage whether she was being effective. She slowly mastered the skills through witnessing her own ability to meet the incessant demands placed on her.

Despite my positive feedback to the department, it was clear that they wanted her to lose her parental rights. Because I supported my client, I began to be harassed and told that she had NOT done the training because I did not use a book. Since I was not going to continue to work with her, as they saw fit, they were proceeding with termination of her parental rights.

During this mounting pressure, a hearing was held “to transfer the children to a family member” so that she “will be more likely reunited with her own children.”

She turned to me frantically, “I know what they are up to… They want to move the children further away, out of state, so that I cannot visit the kids. Then they can make the argument that enough time has gone by and I haven’t been able to visit…They don’t want me raising my kids. It doesn’t matter what I do.”

Her public defender told her not to worry and so did I. She was complying with the court expectations. You know something? She was right.

At the termination hearing, which I was not allowed to attend, the mother of these two young children was asked specific questions about Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. Of course, she was incapable of responding. Her parental rights were terminated.





A Letter to my adoptive mother

Dear Mom,

You called me the other day and left a message that your friend had died. I am not sure what you wanted from me. YOUR friend was NOT my friend. I did not respect him because he did not respect me. In fact Mom, your friend, George Beele was disgusting. He spent an inordinate amount of time consumed by his desire of young women’s breasts and would talk incessantly about the size of the racks that he had seen and was fascinated by men around him who procured women with large tits and small waists. He horded pornography and left it lying around where Reese and I could find it. He tried to watch me shower and dress. Reese and I were subject to his filth at the tender ages of 12 and 10. What he did is called “covert sexual abuse”. He trained Dad to do the same to me.

After spending much time with the Beeles, Dad would make comments about my body and appearance. He would walk in on me while I was dressing and make sure that I would walk in on him when he was completely naked. It got so bad I started having nightmares about it.

I can’t talk to you about these things because your eyes go blank and you change the subject. I never understood what you were doing until I became a psychotherapist and saw it in traumatized clients that I worked with. You dissociate Mom. The context of conversations that we have causes your head to go blank and you lose your train of thought. It is a trauma response.

Dr. Serra was a psychologist who worked with me at Rutgers when I was finishing my Nursing degree. She is convinced that you were a victim of incest. Now, through finally understanding the reaction I see in your expression, I can appreciate that as well.

My question is this Mom, when do I get a chance to be free of this nightmare? You and Dad defined me as defective almost from the beginning: when I didn’t tell time as fast as Reese, when I had trouble with Math and was being beaten up at school. I wasn’t defective Mom, I was adopted. My genes were and are different, and so were my needs. Did you know that there is evidence that our bodies hold familial memories within the DNA itself? Think of it Mom! That means that I couldn’t “just get over” myself. It was hard wired so in judging me defective, you not only erroneously judged me, you also created a lifetime breaking free of that designation.

That perspective enabled you and Dad to do all kinds of unspeakable things to me. Dad could pardon the covert incestuous way that he treated me and you would forever compete with me for Dad’s attention as if I was a sexual rival. What you didn’t understand was that the more that you treated me as something other than your daughter, the more right you gave Dad to engage in covert sexual activities with me, because you intensified the lack of fatherly concern that he had for me. You and Dad were able to bond through my physical and sexual subjugation while faulting me for the confusion and anger that resulted.


I don’t know how to go on from here Mom…. how can I continue a relationship with you when you have never been interested in me and who I am? When you have sacrificed me over and over to hold on to the delusional way that you continue to live your life? When your biological daughter, Reese, has chosen to follow in your footsteps and is herself becoming quite mentally ill choosing to avoid the truths of her own existence?

I was the family scapegoat and for that I have to thank you. I was NEVER given the chance to avoid taboo issues but instead was made responsible for others misbehavior and mistreatment of me. I am free of those burdens because I am now able to disentangle myself from the mind fuck that constituted my development. Because I figured it out essentially by myself, I am stronger than most people and am brilliant in my line of work. I now do not have to face the emotional hardships you and Reese choose to endure. I am money poor, but find my life enriched with people who deserve me as much as I deserve them. We live as we choose and have disentangled ourselves from the poisons that “loved ones” have spewed in our direction. I hold far less fear than you do and will never be immobilized by fear again.  As a result of accepting myself,  I am NOW ready to part with ALL the things that do not serve me. Goodbye Mom!



EXPOSED: Under the gun… Real Estate Consumers without OVERSIGHT of Real Estate “Professionals”

The Introduction to Washington State

I should have known there was a problem with the State of Washington when we were stopped in our Grand Caravan going through Eastern Washington driving slightly over the speed limit. We couldn’t see out the back of the van because it was packed with our belongings for the over 800 mile move from Wyoming. We were bleary eyed from the journey now in its last day. My eldest was driving and to keep ourselves awake we had the radio blaring.

It was some time before I became aware of the flashing lights behind us. “Hey Tristan, pull over.”

“What is the problem?”

“There is a cop behind us,” I told him as I looked in the rearview mirror. I watched the man get out of his patrol car and immediately saw him draw his weapon. I glanced in the back seat to see my two little ones fast asleep. I looked to see my dog raise her head and turned to see the three cats, secured in creates, stir.

He approached the car nervously. “Why didn’t you pull over?” he yelled in the car waking Zeb and Bronwen in the back.

I kept an eye on the gun that had now entered the driver’s side window. “We couldn’t see you officer,” I replied.

“You deaf?” He yelled again. His voice was hostile and shaking.

I glanced back as my two little ones eyes got big with alarm.

“We have been driving for 3 days, we had the music up to keep us awake. With the Wyoming plates and children and animals, isn’t it obvious that we are a family moving here?” I tried to ask him to get his brain engaged with the reality of the situation.

“Well you can never be sure,” he told me, still visibly shaking.

“Can you put the gun away? You are upsetting my children for no reason.”

Still not convinced, the officer held the gun a little tighter, “Let me see your hands, he demanded.

“Do you want my license and registration,” I tried to prompt him, “Can you put the gun down so I can get my information without being shot?”

As I reached for the glove compartment he barked at me, stopping me, “What are you doing?”

“Getting the information. I told you we are moving and I placed my wallet, insurance information and registration in the glove compartment for safe keeping.” I said as slowly and softly as I could.

“Slowly…” he told me.

I retrieved the information and handed it to the officer as my son showed the officer his hands, his pockets and reached to get his license as well.

“Where are you going?” he asked us rudely, still not lowering the gun from the driver’s side window. I heard my daughter whimper in the back seat.

“I have been hired to be the mental health therapist with Skagit County Drug Court” I told him as calmly as I could. “We were not aware of how fast we were going”, I told him apologetically, “and I am sorry. We have obviously upset you.”

It was then that he lowered his gun, “You would never believe what we encounter doing this work,”  he told me,  his voice visibly wrought with emotion.

“I can’t even imagine. Rest assured we have no intentions to do that to you”.

“I have to ticket you,” he said as he looked at Tristan almost apologetically.

“No worries”, Tristan replied as he handed the ticket to me.

“Just pay attention to what is happening around you” he told us.

“We will,” I reassured him very aware that we sat on a highway where there had been no passersby during our stop.

I watched him get in his car and pull ahead of us….

Trickle down unethical and illegal activities: Bankers and real estate “professionals”

So the feds have recognized the corrupt way that the banks have dealt with buyers? So what! That is just the tip of the iceberg.

As one of the few who has done everything by the book trying to meet obligations to crooked lenders; first at Golf Savings Bank, then Countrywide, Bank of America and now Fannie Mae who is now charged with picking up the pieces of the unscrupulous dealings in my case that have yet to be properly exposed.  I feel used and victimized by opportunists who have been allowed to side step rules and procedural safeguards.

It doesn’t stop with the banks. Instead there has been created a fertile environment that allows dubious practices of real estate “professionals” allowing them to feed off the blind funding of questionable loan applications. Such was my case.

In December of 2006, I flew from Sheridan, Wyoming to Seattle to do a whirlwind tour of interviews for a mental health/addictions therapist position. I had 2 interviews in Skagit County, 1 in Port Townsend and 1 in Seattle. During my time in Washington State, I arranged to work with a real estate agent to set up housing accommodations for myself, my 3 children, dog and cats in case I was offered a job. I owned a 3800 square foot home on an acre in Wyoming and would need flexible financing terms so that I would have time to sell my home there. My agent in Washington State ONLY showed me mobile homes despite my objections. He sent me to a loan officer at a local bank not believing my claims of having excellent credit. When the findings proved my assertion, we looked at a home in a rural part of the county. I placed a low bid on it but it that was rejected.  I was discouraged from making one any higher. The agent told me that the house needed a new well and that would be financially too demanding for my resources.

When he took me to look at an empty 4 bedroom home in town we passed an empty 5 bedroom home offered at a significantly lower price than the one that we were going to see. I told him that I would like to see the home. He told me that it could not be seen as it was under contract. I told him that I would like to put in an offer. He told me that I could not. Despite what I had been told then, with my house in short sale now, I have been encouraged to continue showing my home even though there is accepted offer and contract on the table. That, I have been told, could drive up the price and make it more likely to be accepted by my loan holder and collector, Seterus. Why the discrepancy in approach?

The home we finally arrived at had rudimentary appliances and an old furnace. I voiced my concern and was told that there were not many homes available in the area that I was interested in buying. Not knowing the market, and overwhelmed with the enormity of both job and house hunting in an area of the country I did not know, with limited time to make things happen, I felt compelled to listen to his advice.

The agent suggested a building inspector by the name of Keith Schenk  to do the inspection who passed the house with only a brief mention of some problems with the way the sinks were plumbed. The agent encouraged me to make an offer. I did and waited to hear the response. I had been offered a job nearby and was set to begin work January 1st 2007. I had to leave for Wyoming. It was December 10th 2006. I went home and began packing, awaiting a counter offer on the home my children and  I would occupy.

The kids and I were to be able to arrange to rent the home until the closing date on January 30 th of 2007. When the fax came with the owners response to my offer, I accommodated the counter offer, as per suggestion of my agent, and was under the impression that we were set to enter the home upon our arrival to Washington State. I would be wrong.

Just before leaving to move to Washington State on December 26, 2006, I received a call stating that the owners were concerned with the rental arrangements and wanted time to reconsider. My children and I got to Washington State December 31, 2006 essentially homeless and stayed that way for almost 3 weeks. I had difficulty finding hotels that would accommodate my pets and was out almost a couple thousand dollars when it was all said and done. I was not able to start my position on time and my children had to start school from a local hotel. I had my furniture coming by moving van and was forced to place them in storage.

We finally were allowed admission into the home. The day that we took possession as the  agent went to turn on the water at the street, the kids and I heard a hissing sound. A pipe burst on the incomplete back porch and was spraying water all over. We were not allowed to move in for another week while the former owners were allowed to come and fix the problem.


Within the first week or so it became apparent that the house had some significant plumbing issues outside the ones disclosed in the home inspection. The bath tub upstairs had old fixtures that broke off. At that point I could not direct water above to the shower head. When I opted to go downstairs to take a shower, standing in a pan that was barely big enough to accommodate me, I found another problem… After showering and turning off the water, water drained out the bottom of the wall toward the toilet. A call was made to the agent who again called the former owners. Lindolfo Fragoso, the former owner, was allowed to gerry rig the repairs yet again. My voiced concerns were belittled and I was told not to jeopardize the closing otherwise I would risk being homeless. Not once was I told that I could rescind my offer nor was I offered a different place to stay while the former owners were forced to pay for an appropriate licensed plumber to do the work.

On Easter Sunday 2007, I entered the shower upstairs and again had the old fixtures break off in my hand. That was now more than 6 years ago and the fixtures still do not work, nor has anything been done to remedy the problem, but I am getting ahead of myself… I went downstairs to shower and again experienced water draining from the wall. I called the agent, Jim Glackin of the Mount Vernon office of Windermere immediately.

“I am sorry” he told me, “I am at a barbecue. I cannot help you. You should call the inspector. He has insurance.”

It was a year and a half that my children and I lived without a functioning bathroom, in violation of the sales agreement while I struggled to expedite the sale of my home in Wyoming so that I could prop up what was beginning to look like a flip home of the worst kind.

My son developed a pilonodial cyst at the end of his spine. Then a 4.0 National Honor Society high schooler, he shut himself in his room for what would be, 2 and a half years. A strange a putrid smell filled the downstairs.

“Mom?” he called to me one afternoon when he emerged from the bathroom, “there is something wrong with me. Can you look at it?”

I took him in and had him bend over and there it was… a hole that tunneled from the base of his spine up towards another one about 5 centimeters above. Pus filled the cavity and was oozing. The area was beet red from him trying to sit comfortably without success.

We made an appointment to see a nurse practitioner friend and she diagnosed the condition and made a referral to Children’s Hospital in Seattle. There we were told that:

“This condition occurs in larger framed young men whose bodies are hairier. We often see this in men who cannot bathe frequently like young men in a war zone. We can excise the lesion, but it can often grow back. I suggest shaving the area and bathing very well directing a shower head to the affected lesion to cleanse and promote healing”.

My son was put on some antibiotics and I struggled to close on my home in Wyoming so I could get a shower put in so my son could be alleviated of his suffering.

After being blown off by the agent and building inspector who belittled my concern of possible mold arising from the leaking water from the wall, I took my complaint to the local BBB. In response the owner of the local agency in which the agent worked, backed his agent and dismissed my complaint as being without merit.

I then entered a complaint with the Washington State Attorney General’s Office who replied only that I should contact the Real Estate Disciplinary Board. I knew at that time that submitting anything there would amount to nothing and that was confirmed in Fall of 2012 when, depleted in financial reserves and facing, for the first time, being delinquent on my mortgage from hell, I submitted a complaint to the Board. They suggested that I hire an attorney.

Again, I am ahead of myself… I apologize.

When the money was received from the sale of my Wyoming home, I bought new appliances and took bids to fix the bathrooms. The bid was almost $5000.00 but when the time came to do the work, the downstairs shower remodel doubled in price…

In an email  from the owner at Stilly Valley Plumbing, who I hired to do the work, he summarized what he found in the work that he finally did for me…

“As I remember on your job we were called out to look at your plumbing as you were having some major problems with all your plumbing, both upper and lower baths.

We checked everything out and came up with a plan of fixing what we could see, knowing possibly there could be some more problems as we took down sheetrock etc. and uncovered the rest of the pipes in the wall.

 I quoted you a price to remodel both bathrooms and fix a few other issues as well. Because of your budget constraints at the time you advised me we should get the downstairs bath up and running first. Listed below are a few issues I remember running into. The first one I remember quite well as it was definitely plumbing at its worst.

 1- The Shower was leaking sewer out from under the pan after every usage. Once we tore out the old Shower base we found that the shower pan wasn’t properly connected to a p-trap per code. The pan was draining onto the concrete and running into a little concrete pit with a pipe stubbed up. There was no direct connect from the pan to the drain as should be. We then had to chip up concrete and add a p-trap and connect a new pan directly to sewer. In my opinion there was no way this could have gotten inspected as this surely wouldn’t have passed code.

 2-I remember that we had to fix the sink in the downstairs bath as well as there was some pretty good leaking going on there as well. I honestly don’t remember a 100% what we did to fix it just that we did.

3-Same thing with the toilet and washing machine, I don’t remember exactly what we did with the drain although I do remember setting a new toilet and re-doing the drain on the Washing machine. I was thinking it wasn’t vented correctly.

 4- I know we re-plumbed most of the piping under the kitchen sink as there were multiple leaks under the sink and I also remember there was plumbing of some sort on the other side of the kitchen sink that was on an un-insulated covered porch. As I remember there were some leaks or drips from freezing damage. I believe we cut and eliminated that plumbing.

 As for the upstairs bath I honestly don’t remember if we fixed anything there or not. I know you were on a very tight budget at the time. I do remember that the plumbing in your house was very un-professional looking and in my opinion actually looked more like something an inexperienced homeowner might do.”

 Electrical Problems

Since entering the home there had been unusual things happening with the electrical system as well. When any of us would go to plug into outlets, the outlets would not hold the plugs. They would fall out or wiggle and darken large portions of the home.

I invested in new appliances since the dishwasher was extremely old and less than reliable. I also bought a microwave and had it installed over my new double gas oven with 5 burners. The refrigerator was replaced so that I could have an ice maker. Within the first week the microwave blew out. With a year the burners on the stove began to fail to work consistently and then a power surge fried the ice maker in the refrigerator. The overhead lights both in the kitchen and out back below the uncompleted addition have repeatedly blown out.

Because the house is now in short sale, I needed to justify the lower than market price offers that were being received on the property. I called an electrician in March 2013 to ask him to assess the problems with the electrical system in the home.

“I need you to make a call to the company who provides you with electricity before I will come out” said the owner of Mount Vernon Electric.

I immediately made a call to Puget Sound Energy who sent a repairman out for a “partial power outage”. I called the day after to find out the problem.

“We found a fuse burned out on the transformer,” I was told.

I asked for a report so I could begin to identify where the electrical problem lie, with the shoddy internal work or a problems with the power company. They refused to send me a copy of the report.

The electrician came, charged me $75.00 to tell me that there was nothing wrong with the house. As far as I was concerned, he never did a thorough investigation because he heard that the power company had made a repair.

I continue to have power surges and symptoms of faulty electrical problems so I placed a complaint with the Washington State Attorney General who forwarded my complaint to the Washington State Utilities and Transportation Commission.

When PSE was contacted by the commission, a woman by the name of Vicki called me to arrange the placement of a meter to be set up to track the power coming into the home for one week. They found no problems. When I requested to be reimbursed for the multitude of problems encountered from the power surges PSE denied my claims.

Just today, while making waffles, a power surge fried the waffle maker. I still have NO idea what the problem is.


The old furnace broke down in the fall of 2008 and I bought a heat pump compatible high efficiency furnace. Barron heating was appalled when I told them that the building inspector passed the old Janitrol furnace. It is not clear if the electrical surges finally signaled the demise of the old unit but I do remember during surges that the furnace would try to click on over and over without success and did so the day it finally died.

 Structural issues

The back porch and addition, never well-constructed, is now decomposing. The stairs rock from side to side to the point that I am afraid to mount them. At one point the back door ended up not even being able to close and lock. A  general contractor rehung the back door so that the wind would not force it open anymore. (I had been holding it closed with a rock). The front door now does not stay shut and needs to be bolted to stay closed.

When I tried to justify the low bid now in front of Seterus, the loan holder for Fannie Mae, I brought in Rainy Day Basements who told my fiancé and I that the back door was cut out of the foundation and that the addition never had appropriate footings. The weight of the structure is pulling it away from the house structure itself. If not properly taken care of, the roof will soon have problems… There is a noticeable crack between the roof and the main house and two of the beams supporting the addition have visibly bent. They are not the appropriate size for the load that they support.

The front porch and concrete were poured after the original structure was built and now are leaning away from the house structure causing a noticeable gap.

Our dishwasher sits in the corner of the house where the addition is pulling away from the main structure. It has popped off its front face. No one will explain whether this phenomena is due to the pulling on the structure despite the fact that there are also drawers that have popped their faces and issues with the front and back doors closing properly.

Summing it up

I have been forced to pay a mortgage of over $1900/mo. and was one of the first to request a loan modification from then, Bank of America. I have a long trail of paperwork spanning

the years since my purchase of the property. I finally had my complaints forwarded to the feds at the Office of the Thrift by the Attorney General of the State of Washington after repeatedly contacting them and the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau. I thought that a reduction in principle would justify my continued fight to stay in my home despite the ever increasing evidence of its barely livable condition. It was only because of their looking into the case that the loan modification was granted. The problem is that I signed
something that only prolonged my agony, paying still almost $1200 per month for a house that had been called “dangerous”.

With the economic meltdown, my finances have dried up. With the bleeding of my reserves for a home that continues to reveal continued a Pandora’s Box of horrors, I have paid my bills and not been able to clothe and feed my kids. I have documentation proving my visits to the local food bank since 2010. My last attempt to save the home came in September of 2012 to no avail. I secured attorney’s services and am engaged in a short sale. I am delinquent on my mortgage and HAVE NO INTEREST IN WASTING ANY MORE MONEY!

I bought the home as a zero down for $252,000 plus. It is now been assessed for $154,000 and that would have been if the home had been in livable condition. I had  a cash offer of $120,000 and the mortgage service company, Seterus, who is a contractor of Fannie Mae has come back with a $170,000 counter. The buyer would not raise his offer and so the deal was denied. I now have an ofer of $130,000 in front of Seterus and have tried to JUSTIFY the offer.

My civil suit and my short sale are intimately related in ways that the bank, real estate industry nor attorneys seem to be aware of. Maybe, quite frankly, they don’t give a damn. There is 6 years of documentation proving the home was shoddy. At the very least the seller, agent, agency and inspector were negligent. At the worst, they were engaged in fraudulent practice of securing funds from a bank that they had no right to. The bank then became the holder of a note on a piece of property that was not suitable to even sell.

My agent acted as the catalyst to the purchase, pushing me to make a bank deal on a substandard home and refusing to give me options early on when the systemic issues emerged. The buyer, the realtor, real estate agency and inspector benefitted, AND so did the bank.

Bank of America was the recipient of a hardship letter that itemized the problems with the home when the loan modification was secured. If Fannie Mae wants to recoup its loses, instead of denying the cash deal on the home, they need to make up the difference by going after the people who got away with passing this house off as marketable.

I played by the rules! I did not just run from my obligations as three of my close neighbors have. The 6 years of hellish living is not over. The feds will NOT let me be free of this nightmare. They bailed out big banks but are punishing those of us who have been victimized by the very system that THEY FOSTERED! Tell me, why doesn’t the feds go after the “professionals” who rode the coattails of big bankers, lining their pockets with every dime that I sweated and bled out these past 6 years while compensating me for
the substandard living and hardship faced by me and my children?

The lawsuit against Windermere, agent Jim Glackin and owner, Jim Scott

I stood in Snohomish County court on Monday June 3, 2013 with my attorney, Wesley Foreman. The case had been transferred out of Skagit County for the same reasons that I encountered when trying to find an attorney for the case back in 2007, conflict of interest. Everyone knows Jim Scott and I have had a relationship with the Superior Court judges in Skagit County having worked in drug and dependency courts.

I remember the day just about a month ago standing in the hall as the clerk scurried around trying to find a judge to sit and rule on the Motion to Dismiss submitted by Windermere’s high paid and well-seasoned attorney. No one would take the case and one by one they all recused themselves.

Commissioner Paxton approached the group assembled in front of the clerk’s office without seeing me, “How are you,” he asked as he flashed his biggest smile at Jim Scott as he embraced him.

“Wow” my fiancé said as he turned to me.

“Yup,” I said as I shook my head.

Standing in court there that day, June 3rd, we were at it again. I had repeatedly sent emails containing pertinent information to my attorney and the lead counsel, Chuck Greenberg: the BBB letter and the Attorney General letter summarizing my complaints were emphasized. Each email was read and charged at $150.00/hour. My efforts have all been in vain. In an email to Chuck Greenberg, the lead attorney on my case from Triad Law Group, I wrote:

Monday court was an eye opener. I have been thorough with the information that I submitted for Triad Law Group on this case, providing documents that provided legal argument that could have helped me. I have no idea why I have spent $5,250 because when the defense attorney stated that no discovery had been done and submitted for the court’s review, I felt robbed. When he stated that there was no evidence that Jim Glackin knew of the ongoing problems and insinuated that I had done nothing about the problem, I became angry. I have sent you a letter from 2007 (within the statute of limitations) to the BBB where both Jim Glackin and Jim Scott responded to my allegations. They both admitted  that I was told that I would be homeless if I continued to complain about the problems encountered in the house. That was never submitted into evidence. I sent a letter to the WA State Attorney General as well looking for help to deal with this issue and it was included in the portfolio. I felt smeared in this court hearing. When I stood up to clarify the matter before the court, I was silenced by the presiding judge. I HAVE WASTED MY MONEY AND DONE THE WORK THAT TRIAD LAW GROUP HAS FAILED TO USE TO ADVOCATE MY CASE! I am appalled! The precedent set going into the other cases is that I have no evidence. On the contrary, I have painstakingly amassed a tremendous amount of material that I continuously have tried to remind both of you and, to add insult to injury, was charged for your time. I KNEW THAT THESE ISSUES WOULD BE IMPORTANT GOING INTO COURT. I have not only lost this court hearing but I have also lost leverage by the stance taken through a serious lack of appropriate representation. Our cases against Schenk and Fragoso will be, AT BEST, an uphill battle! I haven’t gotten my money’s worth to date, and don’t know why I should continue to agree to such charges for the less than competent service that I have received.

I was being charged $150.00/hour to read emails and receive phone calls  regarding the documentation that I was constantly reminding you that would become pertinent in this case. Just like the call that the case should change venue, I was right about the importance of the documents. YOU CHOSE NOT TO SUBMIT ANY OF THE DOCUMENTATION THAT I AMASSED! For that reason,  I will not be continuing this legal battle and wish to sever ties with Triad Law Group. I need to be refunded the bulk of my fees, totaling $3250.

His response:


 I did speak with Wes at length about your situation. I am afraid that I don’t agree with your position.

 If you would like to meet, I would be happy to do so. I believe that there are some issues that you might not be aware of or familiar with and it might make sense to meet and clear the air.

 If that is not acceptable, you are free to contact the Bar Association. When I first discussed this case with you telephonically, I believed that you were in a good position. Frankly at that time, I hadn’t begun reviewing all of the documents and associated timelines and wasn’t thinking about the statute of limitations and how it may take away from your position. I did become concerned early on in our discussions when Mel started telling me that this claim was going to be assigned/sold and that quite a bit of money would be paid out, he also started talking about the claim like it was a foregone conclusion. I told him straight up that it’s not that easy. We had that kind of conversation two or three times.

 Later, as wes became involved and started spending time analyzing the details and issues, he became aware of this limitations issue and he later learned that the defendant was going to be making this argument.

Regarding the statute, there were some documents that-had they been submitted-would have taken away from our argument-and not bettered our chances.

 “In a motion to dismiss for violations of the statute of limitations, detailed evidence showing that you were aware of the issues relevant to the lawsuit long ago and yet chose not to sue at that time hurts your position.  Those documents do not toll the statute of limitations.  The relevant issues are when you learned of the problem, whether you waived your rights to make claims related to the problem, and when you sued. Wes and I discussed this thoroughly prior to the hearing, and we agreed that it would hurt to draw attention to the fact that you brought up all of these issues at length well before you filed the lawsuit.”

 In any event, I believe that we appraised you as to the issues and the fact that the statute of limitations was a serious concern. So I don’t feel that we did anything wrong. I think that it is more a matter of you not fully understanding exactly was happening although wes indicates that he had a number of conversations with you to explain.

 Under the circumstances, I don’t think that what you said is fair or accurate. Needless to say, you are free to go to the Bar Association. Alternatively, I would be happy to meet with you to discuss. 

 Thanks, chuck

My counter:

My story was never heard so we will NEVER know how the information would have been viewed. You saw fit to keep the most important details out of the discussion. I have appeared and testified in court and have seen the expression Wes was emitting, that of a deer in headlights. He was not prepared to answer the questions brought to him. Bringing up Mel has NOTHING TO do with the issue of representation. I will NOT allow you to use him as your scapegoat to explain away the lack of appropriate service when I needed it the most!!! I could have tolerated a bad verdict but the lack of ANY explanation or argument to tangible questions brought by both the judge and opposing counsel is reprehensible!

It would have been more appropriate and ethical for you to ask to see the most pertinent material that we thought proved our case, review it back in January, then you let us know that there were issues that would make the case not worth pursuing. I would have paid the $2000.00 for that information alone! Instead you ran up the bill, charged us for communications for a case that, from your own assessment now (in hindsight) may not have been worth your time and my money. That is poor management at best! 

When law is cited as the foundation for judgments with no connection to reality, injustice abounds! People come to you traumatized from their experiences and you add insult to injury by not allowing them voice within court!  I need more and, quite frankly, so do many other clients you will encounter.

His last response:

Nanaymie: I disagree with what you said. If you want to meet I am perfectly willing to do that; obviously you are free to go to the Bar Association if you wish. Thanks, chuck

There is no justice in a system that oversees the practice of BIG business, even passing legislation to safeguard consumers, but refuses to  make any real efforts to put those ideals into action. In essence we have a deregulation of oversight but tout the fact that people are “given opportunity” to seek justice for unethical and illegal treatment. The constraints written in case law ensure that BIG business will survive, its success built on the backs of hardworking folks like you and me!

Unlock Your own Healing Journey: Understand the lessons from your PAST

Reflections give us pause, reminding us where we have been and the lessons that have learned along the journey. They are as important to our health as the air we breathe, the food we eat, and the conditioning our bodies are in.

All of us have experienced traumatic events in our lives and we do not have to be diagnosable for Posttraumatic Stress Disorder to be severely affected by it. Over time we develop radar to detect specific cues that are tied to the traumas that we have endured.  When those cues are experienced, we can react. Reactions are autonomic emotional responses to triggers that are tied to past learning. They develop to keep us safe. For example: let’s say a little boy grows up with an abusive father. He has learned that his father is most abusive after he drinks, trigger #1. His father stays out late at night when he drinks, trigger #2. He comes home reeking of alcohol, trigger #3. He comes in the back door and it always slams, trigger #4. He always yells for someone to get him food, trigger #5. His tone is angry and impatient, trigger #6. When no one responds fast enough, he lunges at the first person that he sees, with his fist balled up and his arm raised, triggers #7, 8 and 9. The boy knows he is in trouble and runs to his bedroom to hide under the bed. Over time not all the cues have to occur to insight the same reaction. A neurobiological response has been created.

Now, each one of these cues become triggering enough on their own to create a reaction and emotional response because of their ties to this particular event in the past. The problem is that a lack of awareness of our own links between REACTIONS and past events makes it inevitable that we are judged by people around us who have no understanding and often no interest in WHY we emotionally trigger. They tell us the nature of our behaviors, and the reasons why we act the way we do. They can find diagnoses to pin on our behaviors and the more they assert our pathologies sitting behind their desks underneath the professional designations that give them the right to take away our connection to the truth of our experience, the more disempowered and submissive we become to their version of our truth.

So the little boy grows up and one night he is feeling antsy. His fiancé is late coming home. He finds himself pacing back and forth, the knot growing inside his gut. His cellphone rings and he picks it up to hear music and voices in the background…

“Babe, are you there,” he hears his fiancé practically scream in the phone, “we had a really good quarter so Doug decided to take us out for a drink to celebrate”.

The now grown man finds himself beginning to shake uncontrollably. “Why didn’t you call earlier” he says trying not to sound frantic.

“I got tied up finishing some last minute details on one of my files. I will be home shortly”, his fiancé said almost absent mindedly.

He could feel bile come up his throat, but before he could say anything, the cell phone cut out.

He went back to pacing and though he was unaware of his own body moving methodically back and forth from one side of the kitchen to the other, he pulled his cell phone out several times as he felt the anxiety rise in his throat, only to stuff it, like his cell phone, back into his pocket. As his hand slid by his pant leg he realized the dampness of his palm, and his own altered breathing pattern. He came into awareness as if he was drifting back to consciousness after dreaming. He forced himself to take a breath but felt no relief. The anger began to rise and his fists curled into balls, the more anger that he felt, the more strain that was unconsciously forced in the tightening of his hand. He vacillated back and forth; pacing, debating whether to call, shifting in and out of awareness and feeling the rising anger within.

He didn’t know how long it had been but he heard the car door slam and his fiancé’s voice, “Yeah, it was great…”

His fists immediately clenched and he gritted his teeth.

“Thanks so much for the ride. I will talk to you Monday.”

He could smell the booze even before she got to the door and his eyes widened.

She was giddy and called out to him… “Hey hun, I am home.” The door slammed behind her.

Already primed from learning that had taken place long before this night, he snarled and turned around the corner, “Where have you been all this time?”

She was startled by the gruffness of his voice and backed a few steps. “I just called you less than 30 minutes ago,” she said with a matching irritation rising in her voice, “Why do you have so much trouble when I go out?”

He looked at her blankly, the words not registering.

Her tone changed and she contorted her face as she spoke, “Honest to God,” she continued, “You need help… Didn’t you make dinner?”

He said nothing…

“What is wrong with you?” she said, the anger rising in her own voice.

His eyes widened as she spoke, feeling unable to move. Her words cascaded over him but lacked meaning. He was briefly aware of her tone rising and startled as he watched her move towards him and raise her arms.

It all happened in an instant, he took his hand and pushed her hard across the kitchen where she landed on her butt. She looked up, more stunned than hurt as he disappeared around  the corner of the kitchen heading for sanctuary in the bedroom.

Now this scenario is one version of many that plays out in homes across the United States. Because our young man refuses to acknowledge the impact that his past has on his current life situation, he continues to be affected by autonomic responses laid many years before. Because he CANNOT articulate the WHY of his behavioral outburst, it will be judged and his actions pathologized. His actions have meaning but ONLY in the context of his own narrative. If he lacks a connection to his own life story, he is denied the foundational elements for his current behavior. If his fiancé chooses to evaluate HIM negatively from this one incident, he is victimized by her faulty perception, his self-esteem suffering needlessly. If the police are summoned and a court case filed, he now becomes victimized by a community that is more interested in punishing the act than understanding the nature of the behavior’s development.

Within the context of his life experience, his actions towards his fiancé make sense. His behavioral motivation needs to be properly understood so any intervention can be effective. If he consistently faces people who are negative towards him, he will be negative himself. Negativity destroys productivity and reinforces the fear and anger that lie at the base of all negative behavioral outbursts. Healing can ONLY occur with person-centered, positive motivational incentives.

Mental fitness MUST BE a personal journey in recovery. It is as different from one person to the next as the fingerprints and DNA that identify us. Our narrative is our connection to our past and provides the key for unlocking a future of hope. Right now our human service delivery is failing miserably. Now is the time to develop a person centered approach to encouraging appreciation and understanding of each of our storylines, free of bias and judgment. We need to start asking the most humane of all questions… WHY?! When each of us can articulate our life story honestly and forthrightly, without fear and shame, we begin to understand the most important questions needed to improve the social conditions in which we live.

Blame: The antithesis of Human Inquiry and Justice

Two people come into a room to discuss differing viewpoints. Each carries with them their own biases and life narrative that frames the perspective that they hold. Each also carries within reactive emotional stances that are cultivated in living an emotional life devoid of an appropriate outlet. The exchange is a confrontation and conflict by its very construct.

Culture asserts rules of conformity to reinforce social cohesion. People know their place and operate within a strict doctrine of social etiquette. These rules are only visible through the rituals that they enforce within social institutions which reinforce compliance…

In a school the loud speaker booms overhead, “Please rise for the Pledge of Allegiance”.

In a courtroom the bailiff stand to announce the entrance of the judge, “All rise… The Superior Court of Skagit County is now in session”.

Within these small examples comes an assignment of status and defines a role that one is expected to fill. Blame is the construct of a society demanding conformity from citizens.

Individuals use blame to deflect or abdicate personal and institutional responsibility. Those in positions of authority are in the best position to use the tactic. These individuals find themselves buffered by rituals that reinforce their superiority. The more that blame is used, the less real interaction actually takes place. The dynamics in these scenarios favor one side and minimize, if not nullify the input of others.  It is the epitome of a top-down hierarchy.

People who accept this dynamic find themselves in positions to enforce the same rhetorical hegemony. Their egos support the maintenance of status quo over the basic rights and civil liberties of others and their compliance is rewarded with materialistic advantages.

Lopsided Power plays

Case #1: The Case against a Single Mother facing CPS Proceedings

During work with a young woman who had lost custody of her children, allegations of a “Bipolar Disorder” came to light within Child Protective Service documentation that I reviewed. Since multiple physical diagnoses had been given, the client had been being maintained on a slew of medications prescribed by the physician who had made the original “Bipolar” diagnosis. With the tremendous amount of drugs, some prescribed for a condition that did not exist, the client’s behavior was erratic. The erratic and irrational behavior created the incentive for the removal of the children but an investigation into the authenticity of the claims was never conducted.

I was able to track down the origination of the diagnosis and discovered that it had been made by a local physician known by CPS to have some significant problems managing and treating clients. Despite the fact that it had been some time since the children were removed and it took some time to get her an evaluation by an independent professional, he concluded that the diagnosis was in error. CPS continued to overlook the fact that her behaviors stabilized when the medications were properly being administered and overseen by respected professionals within the community. The children remained out of her custody and mandated expectations multiplied to provide “proof of her ability to parent”.

In CPS proceedings the clock starts ticking as soon as the children are removed from their families’ of origin. All issues complicating reunification for safety reasons are to be resolved within one calendar year regardless of: the lack of credible information that precipitated the removal of the children in the first place; lack of timely evaluations, lack of timely treatment referrals being made by CPS; the inherent conflict of interest in which CPS appoints “independent” community professionals to write up supporting statements to back assertions made by CPS; lack of consistent expectations; repeated turnover of CPS staff,  poor communication between biological families and staff; and duplicitous alignment with foster families over that of biological families.

The stage had already been set for disaster. The department was not interested in why the young woman had acted irrationally nor was interested in looking into the implications that the slew of unneeded prescriptions had on her behavior. By withholding her children, delaying precious time, without interest into the credibility of the charges, the stage was set to seal this young woman’s fate. When institutional power encourages and rewards a blind eye by those it compensates monetarily, justice is not just blind, but deaf and dumb as well!

 Case #2: Treatment Facility Bias and Punitive Interventions: Power from the Court

The coordinator of a local drug court was facilitating a group with me in a treatment center that held the drug court contract for the local county where I lived. She confronted the group though accusing them of being complicit with a participating member who had come up with a “dirty” urinalysis, testing positive for a substance. She demanded the group member who was positive admit to using. Clearly uncomfortable, the 12 women in attendance took turns looking at each other and shifted uneasily in their seats.

The counselor looked over at me as the co-facilitator expecting me to agree with her tactics. I immediately felt uncomfortable. She looked away to continue her harassment of the ladies in attendance. By the time that she was finished, she was yelling at them, calling them names and demanding that those in attendance expose the woman who had tested positive.

I felt compelled to speak against this tactic. I knew the person who had the dirty urinalysis and knew from my sessions with her that she professed to be clean. I felt the harassment and berating being used were abusive to all in attendance and I did not agree with the tactics being employed to elicit information. I may have had deep seated feelings about what was transpiring but as a single mother of three needing a job to support my family, I kept quiet.

In front of the group, the coordinator identified the client and reprimanded her about the dirty urinalysis while threatening her with jail time. The client was visibly shaken. During break she was abandoned by the other clients to deal with her misery on her own. Clients knew if they were to console her, they would face sanction as well, regardless of their personal feeling of her innocence or guilt in the matter.

Still denying the use, she came to me in tears. I knew that I was in no “position” as a subordinate to question the tactics and at the same time ask for a more open minded approach to the client. Instead I told her to make an appointment with her physician and discuss with him the possible reasons for the dirty urinalysis. By getting authorities in a better position than I, more independent of the agency and with more status and power to back her stance, she would be in a better position to confront the allegations.

In court that week she came with a letter from a MD. She had a dirty urinalysis because she was borderline diabetic. If I had not helped her to “position” in the situation, she would have been jailed, her sense of self-esteem obliterated, and a very real physical condition would not have been addressed.

 Get the Facts Straight:

Blame is a coward’s way of avoiding a meaningful conversation.

Blame is asserted to reinforce status and power without a fair consideration of issues.

Blame is hidden in diagnoses which reinforce stigma and propaganda about groups of people.

Blame is hidden in the assertion of biological conditions for human behavior deviance creating and preserving the pathological focus and the medicalization of rehabilitation efforts.

Blame is hidden in warnings given about people with different ideas as being potential aberrant personalities.

Where bias coincides in judgment, there can be no justice or human advancement!

Male Bonding: The Cultural Cultivation of Loneliness


This is an overview of the cultural impact on social interaction between men and their families, most specifically highlighting the differences in perspective between the sexes.  Within these words will be reflections of each and every one of us, though the descriptions are not meant to describe the totality of the human experience for any one person. It is a starting point to critically think about the role of culture and society in the perpetuation of social problems that it insists on ameliorating through treatment services by professionals. Any intervention that refuses to understand the foundational elements of these maladies is complicit with the perpetuation of these afflictions through the loss of respect for the human condition!

I sat in front of a frantic man who was devastated by the demise of the only loving relationship that he had ever known. The grief came out in spasms of frantic and breathless verbal exclamations, disjointed and rambling… “How could she leave me? I gave her everything she ever wanted. I would do anything for her…” He looked at me imploringly as if I could impart some wisdom to release him from his pain.

“I remember a time,” I began, “when I was told that men have it far worse than women do. I doubted it at the time as a woman who has experienced the many horrors that can only be endured at the hands of men…. Despite that fact, I don’t feel that way anymore”.

He looked at me puzzled.

“From the time that boys are just babies, they have their emotional and physical pains belittled. Boys are breast fed less, they cuddle less, and have their own expression of real emotions trivialized and shamed. They are encouraged to perform in order to get the most rudimentary of acknowledgments from mothers and fathers alike. They rightly develop aggressive tendencies as the outlet for the overwhelming grief and disconnect that they have, not only with their own experience, but also with the gentle and giving nature of humanity. Eventually they can experience a complete disconnect with all that is emotional. That disconnect keeps them safe and allows them to maintain their culturally acceptable gender role as a male.  As a result, men are robbed of the language of emotionality because they are not allowed to practice it. They do not develop the skills to ask for what they need because they often are not aware that they are in need”.

He nodded his head in silent agreement.

I appreciated the gesture, but knew that the work that needed to be done was far more than he was interested in doing at that point. He was articulating a desire for the only connection with a fulfilling emotional life he had ever experienced, which he believed wholeheartedly existed only in his wife. I had seen it before.

“When many men fall in love” I continued, “they offer their heart for the first time. Women, many times with their own issues, become aware of the vulnerability in their men. While they say that they want softer and gentler men, they also fall into roles that reject the emerging emotional nature of men. Men can end up feeling isolated and powerless without the appropriate skills needed to navigate what is often perceived as a betrayal”.

His mouth gaped open and he nodded his head absent mindedly.

What he wasn’t ready to hear was my understanding of men’s responsibility in the erosion of their fragile relationships… Men overwhelmed with emotions, are vulnerable to their women and some may come to resent what they see as a power that women have over them. Their anger may surface and they may become controlling to lessen their feelings of vulnerability. These relationships can become volatile.

“For some men”, I continued, “the role of provider becomes the way that they prove their commitment and love for the women in their lives. While women appreciate a man who is willing to financially support them, they may at some point come to evaluate partner’s performance negatively. Men can try to “perform” better while bestowing their partners with more material gifts to compensate for their inability to emotionally connect, but that can fall short as well”.

Other revelations that had come to me as a result of my work as a psychotherapist; the fact that I had raised 2 boys, had 4 brothers, and suffered victimization at the hands of angry men, would remain unspoken. He was focused on performing to get his woman back, something disconnected from the way he was really feeling about himself, her, and the potential nature of his own future. The answers to everything he ever needed and wanted lay within him, a person that he was so disconnected with that he was effectively being denied effective intervention of any kind.

I knew in my own mind that the nature of heterosexual relationships was much more complicated. But I have come to understand that western men are more invested in outcome and therefore lack the commitment to the process needed to get there. Mitigating factors always complicate relationships and they would have to be considered honestly… which would mean that this man would have to be able to share intimate details of his relationship. Feeling like a failure could make that difficult. As a female psychotherapist, he could feel the need to “perform” and change details so not to disappoint me. Every detail could be explained and blame absolved, but only if I got the chance.

There are men who will choose a woman who herself is emotionally disconnected. She will demand more and more in material compensation because she has grown up in a family that refuses to cater to her emotional needs. She will have the best clothes, and the best car but can have material needs that exceed her family or partner’s budget. She will acquire the label of “high maintenance” but there will be little understanding in how that was created. She generally will be the one who knows how to use the feminine whiles to entice the men that are the most able to provide the lavish possessions that she needs to insulate her from her own loneliness and self-loathing. Men crave this woman because it is her type that gets the media attention. She focuses an inordinate amount of time on her appearance, because it is what gets her the attention that she craves and needs to feel worthwhile. She worries about the size of her breasts, her hips, the gray in her hair, and the lines on her face. Her preoccupation with acquiring and maintaining the affections of a man keeps her from ever acting on her innate gifts and talents as they are squandered away on superficial details to make her worthy of the care that she needs to feel emotionally whole and complete.

I have known men who distance themselves from the emotional discord that develops within these many dysfunctional family scenarios. In order to feel more in control of their lives and to find solace, some men may develop strong friendships with other men who struggle with the same feelings towards their own partners. Times spent with these men can be kept superficial, nothing reaching the deep feelings felt with a life partner.  Disagreements mean less, arguments never as deep or threatening. There is a huge difference in being able to walk away without feeling like you have fallen short of someone’s expectations. Men are raised with the belief that it is their performance that ensures them the caring love that they crave so much and receive so little of.  Their women though, have problems with understanding that falling short of performance standards makes men feel emasculated and unworthy of the love that they have learned to perform for; in as much as a woman’s fading beauty and her man’s disapproval of her looks deprive women of the same feeling of worth. Disgruntled camaraderie and the voicing of frustration with other men boosts male alliance but does nothing to support the ongoing relationships that they have with their women as it distances both men and women, instead pitting them against each other in mutual destruction.  Women bitch that they don’t have what they need and men complain of the high maintenance attention that is needed to keep women happy. As a result men may bond fiercely with their daughters out of a desire for the unconditional love never received, creating a further distancing of the women in their lives by promoting and fostering a competition between the women in the house.

Men, in general, do not know how to bond with their boys. Within their boys they see the injured and empty children that they had once been. In rejecting that image, they end up rejecting their boys, thus perpetuating the internalized grief and dissociative emotional status once created within them. The cycle is self-perpetuating.

The answer to empowering men lies in critical observation without pathologizing resulting behaviors and emotional responses. It manifests by absolving people of being failures by providing explanations that validate their life narratives while offering other options to promote effective and fulfilling social interactions.



Questioning the Scientific Method and Reductionist Approach in Evaluations made of Human Suffering!


I am at a crossroads. I know that I cannot go any further in my “profession” and have come to acknowledge that my evolving thoughts do not fit within the confines of a practice limited in the focus of its definition. I am a former nurse and disability advocate, dually credentialed as a mental health and addiction practitioner. I am finding myself squeezed out of the evolving dialogue because of an education and training that appreciates the nature of a multiplicity of issues confronting people in recovery.

The Problem with the Scientific Method

Science breaks things down to understand their function.  That is the focus of the reductionist approach. The focus insists on looking at ALL phenomena through a microscope. While that might help us understand the components of a particular aspect of, let’s say, a system, a disease, or, a social phenomenon, it does not do anything to help us understand the relationships between the multiple variables which give rise to the human physical, emotional and social experience, nor does it give us an appreciation of the interplay of these three on the functioning of a living being. Because we continue to fund “professionals” to be expert on the components of systems and their function while neglecting the importance of their interaction, we are complicit in the undermining of human existence. We have come to judge symptoms and behaviors we cannot understand for lack of appropriate focus and interest. Yet many of us feel compelled to act on erroneous judgments and intervene in ways that deprive people of their most basic civil rights; support of their families and loved ones, their freedom to make informed choices and the right of self-determination, in essence, their very lives!

Reducing human problems to encourage funding over effective intervention

I remember being approached by an addict who was then a member of the local adult felony drug court. “Are you an addict”, he asked me as he sized me up.

“I may not be an addict, but I have done my own recovery” I replied with all sincerity. He seemed to relax a little but seemed puzzled by my response.

“I suffer from Posttraumatic Stress Disorder,” I clarified, “I have triggers much like you do. When I am triggered, I revert to a panic response, much like your cravings do to you. I have learned to limit my exposure to triggers, disengage from unhealthy situations so that I am not further harmed and de-escalate my triggered responses so that I can function. These are all skills you can develop and they will help you stay clean”.

My approach gained credibility with clients I served but the political and financial nature of my placement within a chemical dependency agency limited the focus of treatment to an “addiction only” priority.  As my credibility increased within the court, questions emerged concerning my interventions and my work was conveniently articulated as being solely applicable for “mental health” clientele.  The competition for funding and preference in contracts makes addiction and mental health separate entities pitted against each other for preferential consideration. I was hired for my mental health training or my substance abuse and addiction specialty, thus my holistic perspective was completely discounted. To this day when I interview for mental health positions, my placement within substance related programs causes me to be seen as being an “addiction professional”. The holistic nature of my expertise is being ignored by both streams of therapeutic approaches.

Clients continue to receive less than optimal services for complex issues that have been broken down into funding streams so fractured from each other as to make the service meaningless. I have witnessed drug court clients sent to prison for mental health conditions that have not been addressed within treatment and severely mentally ill clients fail to address their mental health symptoms due to an addiction that repeatedly them.

Fractured medical treatment:a lesson of the dangers of reductionism and protectionism

My father had multiple physical ailments. He suffered from Diverticulosis, Raynauds Disease, high blood pressure, and colon polyps. He had suffered a mini stroke from over extending himself cleaning the basement floor in 95 degree heat because “it had to get done”.  This behavioral manifestation was a clear indication of the Obsessive Compulsive nature of his personality that I was raised with. I distinctly remember him standing in front of the stove every time that the family was about to leave the house. “One, two, three, four”, he would count slowly and methodically looking first at one burner and then the next in a clockwise direction. He would repeat the sequence 5 times before including the number 5 which designated a check of the oven. He neglected his mental health all his life seemingly more prepared to deal with the mounting physical conditions that resulted.

Never diagnosed, my father pretended that he did not have mental health symptoms despite the days that I remember highs when my father would sing, dance and act silly. As a little girl he would ask me to stand on his feet and he would take my arms and dance around the kitchen. I hated the highs knowing the plummet into the opposite was just around the corner. I never knew when it would come, just that it would. Those were times filled by grumpiness and fits of anger. On nights that I would come home from swim team practice hungry, thirsty and tired, he would take my food away and taunt me. He would react aggressively to my objections and physically run me into the wall when I tried to get away from him. He would often withdrawal and work in the basement for long hours. He would not even discuss mental health issues and refused to do anything to stop the vacillation back and forth. He seemed reticent to distance himself and his emerging mental health symptoms from his own mother, a woman he called “Crazy Lil”. I am sure both he and his mother suffered from Bipolar Disorder.

Years later when my adoptive father was declining, he had undergone a colonoscopy to snip some of the polyps that occasionally occurred along his colon. Before he had gone in, his Coumadin (an anticoagulant) used to avert stroke or heart attack from a dislodged clot, was stopped. The rationale was that the action would promote a better healing post-op by allowing him to effectively clot.

After the surgery he began walking around his neighborhood again. One day the walk was taking exceedingly too long. When my adoptive mother saw him hunched over clutching his chest as he approached the house, she sprang into action. He was immediately admitted to the local hospital where he was monitored. Because his symptoms were not responding, he was transferred to an inner city hospital. His Coumadin was reintroduced and its dosage upped. To my knowledge there was no conversation between the specialist who had performed the polyp surgery and his cardiologist who was monitoring his cardiac status.  As a result, my adoptive father began hemorrhaging internally. Immediately clotting factor was introduced. He had a subsequent heart attack. He started going into respiratory distress since his heart was compromised. An order was made to ventilate him since his respirations were compromised and his oxygen saturation dropped. Like many people who are prone to mental health conditions, his gag reflex was over sensitive so he was prone to choking.  Intubating (inserting the breathing tube) caused him to vomit from his violent choking. They continued to struggle to get the bleeding contained while supporting his cardiac function, two very opposing goals since the introduction of clotting agents precipitated another heart attack. They vacillated back and forth between the two approaches. At that point he became comatose and he spiked a fever. He had turned septic, that is, his system was poisoned by the vomit he had aspirated. It was shortly after that my adoptive father expired.

The specialists indicated here are: Psychiatrist, Cardiologist, Proctologist, Pulmonary specialist, and Hematologist. Not one of them specializes in understanding how their “professional opinion” will affect the status of the others, yet, each one affects the other and together creates the neglect indicated in the condition of the patient in question, who in this case was dead!

The lesson about status and power in the abdication of patient and client rights

My fiancé has multiple health problems. He has been subject to poor treatment by physicians on a regular basis. When I met him he was in kidney failure and had dialysis 3x/week. His dry weight, meaning the weight he was when ALL extra fluid was removed from his circulation was 125 kg. The technicians at the center were instructed to make sure that they always took off enough fluid to hit his dry weight number. The problem is that technicians have very little training and, quite frankly, are not trained to think, just follow directions. These technicians do not individualize their treatment; that is, account for body mass gain, seasonal weight gain, heat of the day, perspiration expected, activity level etc. They would take off sometimes 3.5 kg in one sitting. 3.5 kg is 7 pounds of fluid!!! Cedric was repeatedly suffering dizziness and hypotension to the point of collapse. He would go home and sleep the entire remainder of the day from the tremendous stress that it put on his body. One half of his life was essentially being wasted.

I began to strongly object to the technicians removing so much fluid and we were lucky to find a technician who backed our decision. It was through her encouragement we became even more convinced that we were doing the right thing. She was an important factor in his empowerment and the developing voice that he was beginning to have in his care. The Northwest Kidney Center removed her from providing Cedric’s care as a result.

Since he transferred north, he has been receiving much better care. Despite the ability that he now has to express his wishes, none of the healthcare team WILL openly voice objections to care that he has received elsewhere, even when that care has jeopardized Cedric’s life.

The appearance of melanoma: a process of misinformed healthcare delivery and the lack of “informed consent”

Cedric is African American and has spent his whole life in the Pacific Northwest. He had been placed on Enalapril in 2007 for blood pressure management after suffering Congestive Heart Failure as a result of his failing kidney function.

In 2010 he showed his primary physician a lesion his back just below his armpit. She thought nothing of it. In 2012 when I met him, I told him about the lesion on his back as well and suggested that we keep an eye on it. Later that year, he was being worked up for a kidney transplant. Because he was a below the knee amputee, the cardiologist who wanted to do a stress test on his heart, told him that he would be doing a “chemical stress test” against Cedric’s open objections. He was injected with a radioactive isotope. He was also subject to a CAT scan and an MRI. He did blood work and was declared “cancer free” in November 2012.

Getting up early one December morning I told him not to move and started to palpate what was a more nodular and puffy side to the lesion on his back. All of a sudden, it appeared to be growing at an alarming rate. We got the name of a dermatologist and were seen…

“Ninety nine point nine percent of these are not cancerous,” he tried to reassure us, “I will schedule you to come in and take a biopsy”.

“Can’t you take it now?” I asked him.

“Well, I guess,” he said as he turned Cedric’s back away from me. When Cedric turned his back to me again it was clear that the dermatologist had just taken a small part of the lesion, leaving most of it intact.

“Aren’t you going to take the whole thing?”

“No, we can take the rest of it at another occasion”.

The phone rang the next day and the dermatologist himself was on the phone.  “The biopsy came back positive. I am going to make a referral to the University of Washington. They have a doctor who specializes with melanomas”.Stunned, Cedric turned to tell me the news.

“So, they just left the lesion on your back to possibly spread?”

“He told me that the doctor in Seattle was better prepared to do the surgery” he told me with a faraway look.

The scheduled meeting was almost a month later. I tried to have the dermatologist agree to take the lesion off but he refused to do so.

“How does that make sense when cancer spreads?” I asked Cedric, “…and what does it do when he performs a biopsy only on one portion and causes bleeding? Doesn’t that introduce cancer cells into the blood stream?”

The appointment at the University of Washington was a consult. They would not even consider taking the lesion off. A resident reported the findings of the pathology report that was done up north without ever seeing the pathology report itself.

Small talk ensued to lighten the mood as the surgeon walked in the room after almost an hour wait. “That is an interesting accent you have” I quipped.

“Well,” he said, “I am from South Africa.” I was not aware of how important that fact would become as our interaction continued…

“Well, that is odd” the surgeon said looking at the lesion, “I have never seen a melanoma that was so warty looking,” he added as if to no one in particular.

“Can you please tell me how an African American as dark as Cedric who grows up in Seattle develops skin cancer?”

“That is rare” the doctor admitted.

“How does Cedric get passed as cancer free in November and develop a melanoma within one month?”


“He was worked up for a kidney transplant, you would have thought that they would have noticed this lesion on his back and had it checked. Then without looking at the lesion they repeatedly dose him with radioactivity…. Wha la… I find the lesion on his back, once appearing dormant, now growing at an alarming rate”.

Cedric chimed in, “Goddamn it, can’t you just get this thing off my back.”

“No,” the physician told him in a patronizing tone patting his shoulder, “watch your language”.

“The longer this thing sits here, the greater the chance it will spread. Don’t you get that?” Cedric implored him.

“Oh, I will have to do much more than just take off the lesion. What we will do is have you come in and inject the melanoma with radioactivity…”

I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. Didn’t he hear anything I had said?

“…then we will track the radioactivity through watching it illuminate those lymph nodes that have been draining the site. We will remove those nodes and dissect them to see how much cancer is present. We will then inject dye to the surrounding area and take the tissues that show color”.

“The lesion looks very different from one side to the other. Doesn’t that indicate that the lesion might just be cancerous on one side?” I asked him.


“They reported that the lesion was 1.7 millimeters in depth but I think it probably is as much as 7 millimeters. In fact it is probably 7 millimeters for sure” he replied as if that answered the question.

“Don’t you know from the slides taken?” I asked him.

“Oh,” the surgeon told me with all sincerity, “I haven’t seen the slides”.

“Then how can you make the diagnosis? And we are setting him up for surgery?” I looked over to see Cedric squirming in his seat, the physician’s hand tapping him as if he were an inconsolable child.

“We will schedule you as soon as possible” he told me, “we don’t want to waste any time”.

I looked at Cedric who appeared like a deer caught in headlights. “I think we need some time to consider everything” I responded.

“No,” Cedric said reluctantly, “schedule it.”

As the surgeon left the room, Cedric turned to me with tears in his eye, “I don’t want to do this but I have to”.

When we got home, I sprang into action getting as much information as I could regarding Cedric’s medications and skin cancer, specifically melanoma. Remember the Enalapril? I came across a study that tracked people who had been on the drug over a prolonged period of time. Guess what? Some of the older patients had developed…. skin cancer, specifically melanoma! I approached his kidney physican and told him that I wanted his medication changed.

He looked at me confused, “I wasn’t the one who put him on that medication was I?”

“No,” I reassured him.

“We need to get him off that right away. Bring me the bottle and I will call in another prescription as soon as possible for you to pick up…,”

Very interesting!

I also came across information discussing the benefit of using high concentrated THC oil for the treatment of cancer. Come to find out, there were also scholarly articles that had been suggesting the importance of cannabinoids in the treatment of cancer going back to 2003

The day of the surgery, I was in training and was not able to be by Cedric’s side. He checked in at 9am with surgery scheduled for 11am. He was injected with radioactivity at 11am and was not in surgery until 1pm.

“I want to see slides and pictures so I understand what is happening to me”. Cedric reported saying to the surgeon.

“That is just not feasible” the surgeon reportedly replied.

“Then how can anyone give informed consent if they cannot understand the implications of what is being seen?” I asked him after it was all done.

“He told me that there is a 15-30% chance of this recurring”. That information was echoed by my son who accompanied Cedric in my absence.

Ten minutes after waking, Cedric was ushered out of the hospital with a sheet of post-op instructions without ever seeing the surgeon again. Questions were avoided that way, I guess!

The follow-up was inadvertently scheduled for a day that Cedric was in dialysis despite the fact that the staff of the University of Washington knew his other medical obligations… We met a resident for the review 2 weeks later. He was apologetic with the delivery of the news that they had indeed found cancer in the lymph nodes but that it appeared that they had gotten all of the cancer.

“You are facing three options: 1) Wait and see if there is a recurrence 2) You can begin chemotherapy, or 3) Start radiation treatments”

“If we got the cancer, why would we want to subject Cedric to these treatments?” I asked him, “Do we know how many of the nodes were cancerous? What was the percentage of cancer found within each one?”

The resident excused himself to ask the surgeon my questions. He came back just briefly to hand me the pathology report which I read carefully….

Indeed Cedric had a rare melanoma that was slow growing and generally has been implicated in a significant amount of lymph node involvement with other cases. Called “pigment synthesizing melanoma” it resembles a melanoma seen often in the grey horse. There is very little information on the progression of the melanoma’s growth over 10 years though it was not clear if that was due to the fact that intervention led to remission or not.

When the resident returned the information had drastically changed. We stand by our assertion of these events because we can NOT substantiate ANY of the surgeon’s claims, never seeing the pathology slides, the evidence of the lymph node dissection… ANYTHING.  “Four nodes were involved and two were cancerous. The doctor wants to schedule you for a follow-up surgery to go in and remove more lymph nodes to make sure that they are not cancerous”.

“How does that make sense to remove more of Cedric’s lymphatic system, a system that is there to protect him from the very cancer that we just removed? And he is immunosuppressed as a kidney patient?  After all you removed 4 nodes and only 2 were cancerous. Do we even know what percentage of the lymph nodes were indeed cancerous?”

No answer.

We declined the surgery.

When we got back home we submitted a complaint about our treatment and the lack of information provided. The physician called. The questions that I asked regarding what had transpired and what the implications of the findings were ended up being ignored as if I was not even present. I got up and walked away in disgust. Cedric tells me that the doctor kept insisting that Cedric was “out of control” when it was clear that it was the physician who was not in control of his own emotions. Without any more information, Cedric ended the conversation politely.

The complaints we have lodged with other professionals about Cedric’s care go nowhere! Clearly this surgeon’s prestige supersedes the treatment that he gives his patients while his expertise elevates him beyond reproach! Legally he is responsible for providing accessible information to his patients so that they can give him “informed consent” to perform surgery and follow-up care. He does not, nor does he have any intention to do so.

Applying relevant lessons to social services

I have arrived at a similar conclusion about my place within my own “profession”. I am expected to provide mental health or addiction services without consideration of the holistic needs of the person, couple or family I am working with. When I provide dual services, my efforts threaten the staff and administrators through the creation of trusting bonds with clients that they are paid to serve. They discount my interventions as only being appropriate for “that other approach” and insist on defining client behaviors as being centered in their own specialty. Agencies, like doctors, are politically wired to be more concerned about maintaining their funding streams than doing what is best for clients that they serve. I cannot be defined solely through one or the other and so threaten the funding of both.

What became clear to me in maneuvering through my line of work is that the number 1 producer of stress, anxiety and depression has been the understanding that adherence to my thoughts, my ideas and my approach for the good of the people I serve has made me a pariah within the political structure of a social and human service delivery system modeled by reduction of client needs into categories of ailments and conditions in need of amelioration through rehabilitation, and funding resources.

If we focus on just SYMPTOMS that result from more and more people who cannot fit into our ever shrinking focus, divvying the physical, emotional and behavioral manifestations into categories and diagnoses, we neglect the real understanding of how our socially created concepts affect the quality of living we are forced to endure. We miss the myriad of variables that influence human experience by inflicting the focus of an artificially derived lens called “the scientific method”.

Within psychological and sociological experiments, researchers are aware of a phenomenon called, Observer Bias: “This refers to the cultural assumptions which all researchers bring to their work and which help determine their method of research and their observations. It has been argued by some that all enquiry (including ‘pure’ science) is simply a reflection of such biases”.   Since Science has been touted as the methodology of choice in evaluation, it is important to understand its appropriate applications and its limits.

Social interaction etiquette is biased towards elite people who are put in places of judgment to uphold the status quo. We defer to those people because of their station often without consideration of the merit of their contributions, qualifications, or intelligence. The people in these positions get away with being ill informed, narcissistic, disrespectful, bigoted, hateful, and as a result, dangerous (See Stanley Milgram “Obedience to Authority” and Philip Zimbardo’s “Stanford Prison Experiment”

Summing it up

Truth is not in the sole possession of “professionals” as much as they would have you believe otherwise.  Empowerment of self through attainment of personal knowledge begins a journey that can lead to “Strategic Positioning” in the face of powerful forces and “professionals” who function within a limited scope of expertise and biased focus. The beginning lies within you.